I have been sitting here for the last few nights pondering ways to make my relationship stronger, and have compiled a "list" of necessary things, or things that I feel necessary, that every healthy relationship needs. Could be useful in other aspects of life (friendships, family relationships, etc..) with a little tweaking and common sense.
First off, EVERYTHING listed must be followed without deviation:
1) TRUTH. Uncensored truth. Nothing omitted, or altered to be misleading.
2) Refrain from negativity. This means actions, words, and attitude.
3) Posses the ability and willingness to give unconditional love.
4) Be grateful for everything. And express that gratitude frequently.
5) Be receptive to you partner. People change. Their likes and dislikes, their attitude, and personality all change over time. Watch them, study them. Be flexible and act accordingly.
6) Listen to them and actually listen.
7) Do everything with regard to your partner, at all times. It's like integrity, doing what is right even when no one is looking.
8) Love your partner above all others, and commit to them.
9) Give up anything that takes away from a healthy relationship, or makes your partner uncomfortable. This could be drugs, porn, alcohol, excessive internet/computer usage, bad friends, bringing up past mistakes, bringing up past relationships, or situations. What's more important, those things or your partner?
10) Trust 100% of the time and earn that trust
11) Never give up. Anything can be fixed with enough work and perseverance.
12) Never listen to gossip. Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear. If you have a question or an issue, take it up with them before believing it, or making a judgment.
13) Make your partner feel important, loved, needed, and appreciated.
14) Nothing worthwhile just happens and stays that way forever. Like a car, it requires constant maintenance, and adjustment.
15) You are a TEAM. Work as a team. Never leave your partner, never forsake your partner, and never mislead your partner.
16) Do at least one kind thing daily, for no reason but because you want to.
17) Your partner comes first. Go out of your way for them and make sacrifices for them.
18) Compliment them. Make them feel accomplished, and worthwhile.
19) Set an example. Treat them how you want to be treated
20) Be patient with your partner. Be slow to anger, and slower to retaliate. Be the bigger person, even if they deviate.
21) Be on the offensive, not the defensive. Instead of finding fault or guilt, look for the positive, and build on that. The offense scores, the defense PREVENTS forward motion.
22) Criticize constructively, tactfully, and CALMLY. Never intend to hurt the other person, or out do them. Make your point rationally and calmly while being sensitive of their feelings.
23) RESPECT your partner at all times
24) Do something daily that shows sincere thought. Call them for no reason, send them an e-mail, leave or make them a card or note, etc...
25) Romance them for no reason other than you love them. Spoil them with the little things.
26) Always let them know and show them that they are special, important, and perfect to you.
27) Be dedicated and selfless 100% of the time.
28) If things get stale, mix it up. Find a way to rekindle your love and passion. Never search elsewhere for that feeling. Never let yourself be receptive of that feeling from anyone else. There are plenty of "players" that can and will tell you exactly what you want to hear at the moment. Don't fall for it. Your PARTNER is at home, and they LOVE you regardless. Talk to them, don't go chasing something different to add spice, spice up the relationship you already have and have spent time making and perfecting. If you allow yourself to be vulnerable and start talking/establishing something else with another person while you are in a relationship, no matter the situation, you aren't much of a catch yourself, and you need to work on you!
29) Forgiveness. Everyone makes mistakes, and if you want to move on, you have to forgive.
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